Improper Behavior Is Not Cool...Children Dealing With Life Outside The HomeImproper behavior should never be tolerated at home or outside the home. You should always watch for mood changes and disrespectful actions in your children. Children need family support and when they don't get it that is when the problems start at school. They begin to go in the wrong direction. School is the best place they know to get attention. They will do whatever it takes to get what they want. Whether it is being disrespectful to the teacher or starting fights with other students. Just bad behavior in general.
Acting out is one way they may go to get the attention they are lacking from home. Sometimes the attention they seek isn't necessarily good attention. Improper behavior is a way of getting noticed. They aren't doing it to just be bad. Attention is attention even if it's negative. Bad behavior is noticed easily. They could be doing something as simple as speaking out in class to picking fights with other students. They will reject kindness because it doesn't give them the attention they are seeking. If the failed attention at home continues, things will get worse.They will learn that being violent is O.K. Eventually they will learn to rebel against all authority if something isn't done. Expulsion from school won't even bother them at this point.
Pay attention and be attentive to what they are trying to say with their bad behavior. They do know right from wrong. They do know what they are doing is not acceptable. But, when we are ignored as human beings we don't always make the wisest decisions. Unfortunately, without support from home this will continue.
Please, don't let the chronic pain cloud your attention so much that the children suffer unduly. They do love you . They do want you to be proud of them.
Sometimes, we forget they have the same needs we do. It was our choice to have children and to take care of them regardless of the family circumstances. I understand chronic pain is more than a full time situation. It takes up most of your thought process but, a kind word is a loving word. We as human beings seek love and everyone deserves it! Don’t let your stress of the situation, with your children’s improper behavior, be the reason they are acting out in the first place. Many parents make the mistake of punishing the the bad behavior, rather than deal with the emotional need behind it. This is not to say the behavior should be ignored or rewarded, simply deal the punishment as normal. Then have a family meeting afterward and address the emotional needs of the child. This should help resolve the situation, otherwise it will be a reoccurring pattern. So, be attentive to them, listen to what they have to say and be there for them to talk to. Improper behavior is not acceptable and should not be tolerated.
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They DO need your love and positive attention.
